Do you think you have some sort of anger problem? Nearly every day on TV you see angry people usually a married couple arguing over their relationship, as they are washing the dishes. They nearly always end up shattering the dishes all over the kitchen.
After that you will get their absolutely angry teenage kid come down from his bedroom and start shrieking at his parent, "I really hate you stupid people!" while at the same time jumping up and down on his cell phone thus smashing it to bits. The only reason the teenager considers it fine to shriek and do away with his cell phone is because he observes his parents put-on the same act day after day. After the teenager has had his go the toddler goes into hysterics and starts jumping up and down on his toys. And the reason the toddler is so angry is because everybody else in the house is constantly shrieking and throwing all kinds of things about.
But here I am talking about TV soaps where the anger is made up and does not cause any damage like real life anger can.
I should think that almost everyone has felt anger at some point in their life. Anger is after all an emotion that is needed, but it is vital to keep a check on this powerful and sometimes destructive emotion so that it cannot take control and cause mayhem.
As you know when you become angry you frequently behave illogically and this can be very destructive for you and the people around you. Anger control is then extremely essential and there are three easy ways which you can apply to assist you to control your anger.
The first way for you to control your anger is to stop and think about what you are doing then take a deep breath letting your diaphragm really expand then count to ten as you slowly let the breath out.
This is one of the most effectual and straightforward methods of anger control and it actually works. When you breathe deeply from your diaphragm you are practicing a well-known relaxation method that will relax the tension in your muscles. And by counting to ten you are dissociating yourself from the situation and your reaction to it, and giving yourself time to calm down and think more reasonably about the circumstances.
The second Way for you to control your anger is to do something physical, like going for a brisk walk, or going to the gym. Do anything as long as it is vigorous so that you can use up your pent-up frustration thus leaving you feeling calmer.
The third way to control your anger is to reconstruct your sentences to 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements. So as an alternative of accusing people with 'you didn't do this,' say something like, "I was annoyed because I wanted some assistance." This will hopefully start-up a line of communication because communication is vital in order to stop mix-ups. Also communication will let everyone know just what is annoying and why the anger is there in the first place. By using these straightforward steps you can make your life and others a lot more harmonious and pleasant. Good Luck!
Dion Daly is a certified trainer in hypnosis, a master practitioner in NLP and TLT. He also has a degree in metaphysics.
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