The Holiday Season for many can be a time of joy including parties, gifts and festivities galore. We are called upon to be at our best so it also can be a difficult time emotionally. Many know the holidays as The Bermuda Triangle of emotions - Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years.
Remember that "stress" is a big component during the holidays and is also the number one trigger for anger. It can be a time which many of us spend extended time with our "families-of origin" - often a challenging and arduous endeavor. Old resentments or remembered hurts can come up and compromise the intended celebration and fun. We need to be prepared with an attitude of gratitude, forgiveness and empathy.
Keep in mind that not everyone has the opportunity to enjoy the holidays. Be respectful of other feelings and how they may have difficulty navigating the holidays themselves.
Using anger management tools can help. Watch your expectations. Your holiday season may not necessarily match the picture on a greeting card or a holiday Christmas television special.
Be sure to concentrate on giving of yourself. Isn't that what the holidays are all about anyway?
If old hurts or resentments come up (which they will), cultivate empathy and a willingness to forgive. Remember that "resentments" hurt you more than they hurt other person.
If you become irritated or angry - take a time out. Don't "react" to others - rather take a few seconds or minutes - and "respond" - otherwise you may find yourself acting out of your emotions rather than logic. Taking a time out gives you space to process your feelings. Remember that we don't all act or think the same way. We can consider where the other person is coming from.
Lastly - be aware of your "inner talk". Sometimes the messages we tell ourselves are not accurate and cause us to act impulsively. Ask someone you respect if you are thinking rationally before you respond to a perceived attack or insult.
Ask yourself, "Am I coming from a place of "compassion and love" or "fear and anger"?
Many vessels of holiday past have successfully made it through the "Bermuda Triangle". Try to relax and learn to enjoy yourself. Walk into this holiday season with and attitude of gratitude as your compass and you will see yourself sail into safe harbors.
If you follow these simple suggestions you will now be a carrier of holiday joy rather than the Mr. or Mrs. Scrooge.
Daybreak Counseling Service
Shannon Munford MS
http://www.daybreakservices.com/
855-662-6437
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