Anger can sometimes drive us crazy, making us say or do things we later come to regret. While it is true that you shouldn't let anger get the best of you and should calmly think everything through before saying or doing something reckless, the important question is this: is bottling up your anger ever the solution? It never is, and here's why keeping anger inside and leaving issues unresolved is not okay.
Bottled up anger will make you bitter and moody
If you keep stifling your anger and let it fester inside you, you will start feeling very morose eventually. Everything will irk you and you will start seeing life in a whole new, pessimistic light. Anger has the tendency to make you obsessive and moody, and when it is not handled properly it can harm you. Leaving issues that anger you unsolved and trying to ignore them never works, the anger you have kept inside will not fade away but will grow with time until it becomes unbearably agonizing.
You might say the wrong things at the wrong time
Very often, keeping your anger inside means saying all the wrong things at the wrong time and making a fool of yourself. If you ignore an issue for the time being and try to ignore the fact that it has made you angry, you will most probably bring it up at the wrong time and far from having it resolved, it will get you into an even bigger mess. For instance, someone has said or done something that has made you angry, and you decide to bottle it up. You keep the rage inside until eventually you can't take it anymore and spill out everything you have wanted to say; when the other person has long forgotten the thing he did or said. This will not only make you seem foolish, but will also make you feel guilty later, and will solve nothing.
People you are angry at will never know how you feel
Most of the times when we talk things out in a mature way, we find it all to be one big misunderstanding where the other person meant something and you took it to mean something else. If you never tell the other person you are angry or hurt, however, things will never be cleared up, and you will never get over it.
Bottled up anger turns into anxiety disorder
Anger that is kept inside slowly turns into moodiness and even depression, until you are incapable of being good at anything, be it work or even socializing. Depression and other anxiety disorders drastically ruin the quality of your life, and you will become a loner with friends who avoid you because of your anger issues.
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