Controlling anger is possibly one of the hardest things to do. When a person gets angry it is because he wants something to go in his favor and yet it directly contradicts what that person wants. If you think that it is extreme I will explain it in simpler terms. If a baby starts spilling things on the floor your reaction is to get angry. Why? Because it directly contradicts what you wanted. A parent doesn't want things to be spilled on the floor and since it directly contradicted what the parent wanted it got them angry. Try this practice after every time you get angry and you will start to notice and catch the things that triggered your anger before it happens again. Furthermore there are a few other practical techniques that could assist you in controlling anger.
Firstly, a good technique is by setting aside money for every time you get angered or raged. It doesn't have to be a large sum that will break into your bank account, but at the same time it should be significant enough that it wont bother you to get angry. Second, It is important to not make eye contact with the person you feel you may be about to fight or argue with. When you make eye contact with another person it escalates the situation and could turn out to be a lot worse just by simply making eye contact. Thirdly, a good practice is to sleep on it. If you get enraged it is quite natural for a person to say whatever comes to his mind, but, if he is careful, and walks away the situation will automatically become less tense. Therefore, it is a great idea to walk away and sleep on it, chances are that when you wake up in the morning your feelings towards that other person will be much less intense.
We need to put things in perspective, we need to actually see if there is a real reason to be angry at this particular person or thing? Generally speaking when we take offense to something it is because the action or thing was done to "me". That particular person feels targeted and attacked and because his ego was bruised he is going to react in anger. A person has a defense mechanism that is triggered the moment he feels slandered or under attack, immediately his anger kicks in, so to combat the attack. The Best tip to controlling anger is by asking yourself one thing; "Is this going to be important in 20 years time?" A person has to realize that some things are simply meant to be left alone. You will notice you will be a lot happier in the long run when you don't make particular issues your own.
This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website. His website provides many informational and inspiring posts and articles on what it means to be happy and touches upon many topics such as Anger, Self-Control, Patience, Relationship Advice, and much more. You can visit his website at http://www.HappinessDirect.com/
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