Today the most common problem with every second person is to manage his anger and remain cool and contented. In your daily life you usually come across people who are the victims of short temper and anxiety. People avoid their company and try to keep them at arms length so as to avoid their fury and anger. I sometimes really pity these people as they are the slaves of their unwanted and undesirable habit and need help to overcome this malicious habit. So here I am with a few tips that can really work magic in solving their problem.
Anger is a state of trauma and turmoil. A person loses his senses in this state and it blocks his mind to think straight and positive. What you need to do is to remain cool in adverse circumstances. Always give space to others. Be prepared to face any sort of situation while dealing with others. It's not necessary that people will agree to all your proposals. Usually you come up with an idea and without doubting its validity expects others to accept it and when they don't, you get furious and start hot arguments that usually result in untold anger and quarrel. This is absolutely ridiculous attitude on your part. you need to be patient in listening to others and honouring their opinion.
You should always be ready to tolerate others. Tolerance is a good personality trait and those who inhibit it are lucky. At times you are stuck up in such nasty situations that even if you are cool headed, you feel like bursting up in rage any second. This is the juncture where you need to use your weapons of tolerance and endurance. Be brave and remain in control of your emotions. Getting unduly emotional will take you nowhere. Neither it will resolve the issue nor will it relieve the tension. Rather it will exaggerate the problem.
Most of you think that if you are a strict and quarrelsome person people will be apprehensive of you and you' ll have an upper hand on them. In other words a fierce person can dominate others easily. So fake and unrealistic this belief is. Mostly teachers think the same. They get mad at their students on petty things thinking that it will keep them timid, but they are totally wrong as this attitude leads to frustration in students and develops obnoxious feelings in them. You need to be soft and firm in your dealings with your students and others as well. Love and politeness can change hearts and minds like a magic wand. Anger and fury can demolish them like an angry storm.
Another way of managing your anger is to avoid communication with others when you are angry or in a bad mood. If you feel tension mounting up, leave that place for the time being to prevent any unfavourable situation. Later on when the heat has receded, try to sort out things sensibly. This shows your strength and control of mind. What you need to do is to remain composed in times of crises. Instead of bursting out your anger on others just take a deep breath, drink a glass of water and be relaxed. Don't ever forget that words spoken and things done in anger may have disastrous consequences. And no matter how much you repent, it will be in vain. This is absolutely true about situations that provoke people to commit abhorrent crimes like murders.
You are the best manager of your personality and habits. Mould yourself into a commendable human being, who is in complete control of his mind and remains cool, contented and composed at times of chaos and crises. Make patience your first and foremost priority.
Hi! This Naheed Haq from Pakistan. Here I am with a new article for my readers which I hope will entertain them.
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