Ever wonder where your feelings come from?
They come from your values, whether they are satisfied or not. A simple yet effective answer. So if you are agitated, upset depressed then your body or thoughts are offering you a message that your values or needs are not being satisfied. Just take a few seconds and try this simple exercise and watch how your attitude changes.
Our values are so powerful to reaching a connection with ourselves. just thinking of them will raise our energy level, such as trust, authenticity, integrity and honesty. Let's not forget to mention trust. A very powerful value that we have.
A fun exercise to do is just to imagine one of those values being satisfied. Watch how your energy level rises. Who needs coffee when you have your needs to satisfy you. People think they need to feel the feelings yet identifying needs are 90% more powerful than identifying feelings for self-connection..
Just identifying the values/needs of concern can change your attitude. Finding a way to meet that need, either by a request of your self or another can amplify the calm., yet it isn't always necessary to find a strategy to do so.
An Example:
The other day I was on my way to presenting a 3 hour workshop. I was nervous, very nervous because I was doing it in front of 25 people that I knew.
I started guessing what needs I would like satisfied to help me change my consciousness. Some of them were competence, confidence, fun and contribution. Once the values were identified I realized all those needs were really satisfied. From being nervous I changed to being calm and competent, instantly.
Try this tip during the week if your energy is becoming low. Just identify the need you would like satisfied and find a way to meet that need.
A Fun Exercise when in line:
We can also use these values to connect with other people by guessing what they might be needing. If you are in a line such as going to watch a movie or at the grocery guess what the others may be wanting in their lives. You may feel a connection with a stranger and they will not even know it. A fun way to spend your time while wait.
Our needs/values are our life energy. Without them we will fade away maybe even parish. If our physical needs are not met, such as food and water we will not survive. Same with our emotional needs. people move into anger and depression.
So take care of yourself and make sure you meet your needs everyday. One need a day can keep the grouches away.
Personal and business communication skills are never an easy subject, yet Rick Goodfriend teaches these skills in a fun and effective way. He wants communication with others to be easier, more satisfying. Additional Business and personal communication Skills are at http://walkyourtalk.org/ where you may sign up for free weekly communication tips, teleclasses and workshops.
Rick's new book, "I Hear You, But..." http://IHearYouBut.com/ is full of over 90 short and effective communication tips to help make your communications easier and more peaceful. He is also founder of World Empathy Day, celebrated every Wednesday around the world.
Rick Goodfriend is also a workshop leader and certified corporate speaker. He can provide keynotes, trainings and consultation for your business or organization. He has been on over 200 television shows speaking of communication skills training. Rick Goodfriend resides in Santa Barbara, California continuing to surf, hike and practice personal communication skills.
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