Anger is thought to be the black sheep of emotions. Although anger is simply one of many human emotions, it seems to be the hardest for people to express or manage. Our ability to control how we express anger is influenced by many things. These things include our family of origin, which is a big factor. How did our parents express anger? Were we abused? Were we allowed to get angry?
Anger is unexpressed pain. Many anger management clients are carrying rage and resentment from events they experienced long ago. When anger is not expressed, it does not "go away". It grows, festers and can lead to health issues, resentments (which create overall hostility), and the inability to let go of the past. Those who seek help in an anger management class quickly learn, poorly expressed anger controls us and can severely damage our relationships, freedom, health, jobs and often induces depression and deep self-hatred.
Anger Management classes are filling the gap. It is unfortunate that traditional schools do not teach us about ourselves and our feelings. Many parents either model poor anger management skills or don't pay enough attention to their children's psychological needs.
So just how or where are we able to learn the importance of having control over our feelings?
The recent increase in anger management programs is the result of a real need. Many adults are carrying around old anger and rage or acting out in ways that hurt them or others.
Anger management classes include both court-ordered and voluntary clients. Some clients lack basic emotional intelligence that can lead to peace and harmonious relationships. Other's behaviors have led them to arrests or even incarceration. Many of these situations become "wake up calls" that can lead to a new found awareness and willingness to change.
If your anger has resulted in lost jobs, failed relationships, poor health or legal/financial problems it would certainly be in your best interest to seek out help in an anger management course that can teach you what you may have never learned about anger and it's consequences. If you have the "willingness", you will find the "tools" to help you.
You can find anger management classes through your school district, local faith-based institution, heath insurance provider or simply do an internet search. The point is there is help available. Don't wait until negative consequences befall you before you reach out for assistance.
Shannon Munford MS
http://www.daybreakservices.com/
855-662-6437
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