Anger is something a child experiences very often, for anger stems from his frustration at not being able to express himself in a way an adult can. Children have a limited vocabulary and limited knowledge of emotions, and therefore most of the times when they are unable to express themselves; they turn towards anger to be able to vent and feel better. If your child is angry, it is normal, and with the right kind of guidance and support, you can help him get rid of his anger.
Talking always helps. Though your child may not be able to fully explain to you what it is that is upsetting him, you can slowly coax it out of him with the right questions. If your child is just a toddler who hasn't begun to talk yet but is throwing tantrums and displaying other signs of anger, watch him closely when he plays or interacts with other kids. The thing that is triggering his anger may turn out to be very simple; he may be having difficulty operating a toy, or other children might be pushing him or excluding him from games during playtime. Once you find out the reason, you can help your child come to terms with whatever problem he has been having. Help him learn that everything has a solution, and anger is not it. From a very early age, a child learns to understand what you are saying simply from your tone. Once you are aware of the root of your child's anger, you can console him in a soothing voice and tell him it's going to be okay. A child usually feels angry because of helplessness, and your reassurance is what will calm him down and help him feel less angry.
There may be a number of reasons why your child may feel angry. When this happens and he breaks things or tries to pull at his hair or bang his head, stop him. Tell him know that breaking things and hurting himself is not okay, but also let him know that it's okay to be angry, and tell him that even grownups experience anger. Let him know you understand his point of view, say things like "I know you lost your toy and it makes you angry, I would feel angry too. But it's not okay to hurt yourself or others." Once a child knows that what he is feeling is ordinary and nothing to be scared of, his frustration will ease. Often, the reason a child is angry is simply because things aren't making sense to him. Teach your child ways to safely let out his anger when he needs to, he can kick around a football till he feels less angry.
Angel Alvaro is an expert online author and a mother who is very close to her children. She loves to write about the various phases a child goes through while growing up, accounting her own experiences with her children.
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