Anger is a common emotion in everyone. It is considered to be both natural and healthy to express your anger when you feel it. However, you should be able to do this in a controlled and rational manner. Expressing anger is not permission to rage constantly, as this is not healthy. Likewise, bottling anger up can cause major outbursts down that line that can even be physical so it is another major no-no.
In this article we shall look at 7 anger control techniques that really work. All of these techniques are recommended and advised by various professionals. However, if your anger is major and frequent, we still highly recommend you seek a face to face consultation with a professional. Anger is no laughing matter and can end up destroying you as well as your relationships. The tips given are in no specific order. Master as many as you can and find which ones work the best for you. Interestingly, Florida anger management takes the prize for the most requests for the month of December.
Learn to relax - This one is quite simple really. When someone does something that irritates you and makes you angry stop for a second before responding. Take some deep breaths and focus on them. If it helps count down in your head. Try and remove the rage and become calm. With a little practice you will find it easy to keep calm in all situations.
Visualize and plan your response - As already mentioned, you should express your anger in a calm manner. Once you have relaxed as mentioned in the first step, then you need to formulate a calm response explaining what has made you angry. The key is to make a response that is not over emotional but more explanatory of the exact cause.
Avoid accusations and blame - Avoid attempting to blame the person who has made you angry. This can lead to conflict and feedback which can create even more anger. Rather than saying "You caused this because..." instead say "I am angry because..."
Change the way you think - Rationalize. When you are angry, rather than having an emotional outburst, ask yourself logically, what is the cause of my anger? Logic is a great way to defeat anger. If you use your logic you can control your anger much better.
Communicate - If someone makes you angry, rather than jumping on them listen to what they have to say. They may have an issue too, which in your anger you are missing. Communication is vital to keeping your anger controlled.
Tell a joke - 'Break the ice' by telling a joke. A joke is a great way to change the mood. It doesn't mean that you are avoiding the issue. It just makes the issue easier to solve in a non-confrontational manner.
Have some "me" time - If you are finding the anger too much to take, then take a break. Go for a walk. Go somewhere and do something where you can be by yourself. Do not storm out, but politely excuse yourself. Don't brood, do something you enjoy.
By following these few tips you should be able to keep your anger under control. However, changing who we are is often quite difficult so seek the support of family and friends and if you are really uncertain or struggling do not hesitate to seek professional help either in an Anger Class Online or even a local anger management class.
Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.
He is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Click here for more information on Anger Management Classes
Dr. Ari Novick is a psychotherapist who provides world class Anger Management Classes Online.
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