El Dorado - The Golden City of Emotion

I've had this one scene from a movie playing through my mind all day. It comes from 'The Road to El Dorado'. The scene is where the two main characters are talking and the one looks at the other and says "You know that little voice that tells you to stop while you're ahead? You don't have one."

We all have that little voice in our minds. Sometimes it's so quiet that we don't hear it. I'm not talking about the negativity voice that I've referenced in other articles. This is more the warning voice, that little voice that tells you to stop yelling at your children, to not say what's going through your mind to your spouse, to generally not let you temper get the better of you.

Think for a moment about someone who yelled at you. Generally it doesn't matter what they're saying or if their even right, the more they yell the more you become entrenched in your own defense. It doesn't matter if you might even agree with them, most people will shut down or yell back. Neither option helps the situation in any way.

Let's go back to El Dorado for a moment. For those not familiar with what El Dorado is, it was a mythical city made entirely of gold. Even the poorest man built his home of gold.

Each of us has the ability to do that. I'm not talking literally, but the emotions that swell within us affect our actions. You can choose to yell and bring blackness to the world, or spread joy to everyone, painting everything gold.

Happiness is a choice, just as anger is a choice. The things within our lives have created triggers that automatically make us feel angry or happy. We associate these feelings with memories and because of those memories we act a certain way. Changing your emotions only takes a few steps.

1. You have to RECOGNIZE the trigger - When you feel angry and upset stop and remove yourself from the situation. Take a look at what made you feel that way. Once you Recognize what is going on within your own thoughts and emotions and what those triggers are you can start to change.

2. Choose to feel something else - This can be as simple as thinking of a favorite song (as long as it brings happy emotions) or fixing a happy memory within your mind.

3. Practice - Like everything mastery of this skill takes practice. Michael Jordan didn't become a star the first time he picked up a ball.

Like the citizens of El Dorado you can live your life surrounded by gold - golden memories, golden feelings, golden moments. The decision is up to you.

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How to Not Overreact With Emotion

Counterfeit emotions. What are they and how do we tell the difference?

For starters, know what feels good. Not as in a 'high' that you come down from but one that stays no matter what is going on for you.

Becoming successful because you are angry and you seek revenge is counterfeit. Like anything fake, you will be exposed. You will become successful and possibly rich but because it was done for the wrong reasons, you will fall too. It will not last.

Inside you will feel miserable among other things like desperate, lonely, isolated and out of touch. If you don't feel that, you will. Realizing that anger you hang onto against someone else is not and will not serve you, ever. The person you are angry at has gone on with their life never to look back, while you live in constant torment.

Putting yourself through mental and physical torture to be 'right'. We all know, but may not really grasp, money does not make for happiness. Yes it helps, but if you aren't happy to begin with, what makes you think money is going to do it for you?

Because you have a ton of money and can buy things or people, is that true happiness? Isn't it a better option to realize happiness from a good place first? Once you are there, in that good place, you can always use the past anger as a motivator, but when it's part is played, leave it be.

If you are having a difficult time realizing the cause of the anger therefore having a hard time letting it go, hypnosis may be an option. Uncovering old hurts through this means is actually non invasive and brings with it clarity and tremendous healing. You remain relaxed in a safe environment and can express whatever comes up for you then and there. Then it is over.

You may process it for a day or two, maybe not, but either way, it won't matter, Your perception of past events will change for you forever and it will have no more pull on you.

Find the time in your life and feel what is right and what isn't. What are your motivations for doing certain things? Are they pure? Good things do not feel bad. Bad things do not feel good. Unless you have distorted thinking then your perception of things are off center. This could be the result of the circumstances around you. Surrounding yourself with negative situations and people will shatter your best intentions.Old programing may also be a cause in which case your subconscious mind thinks it is helping you by opening old files in your memory and reminding you of past experiences.

But you do have a choice. For starters, challenge the old thinking. Secondly, lose the negative friends and bad situations.

Trust in yourself to know what is good for you. If you are going against what you feel or what you know is best for you, you are exhibiting counterfeit emotions.

Imagine a counterfeit bill of money. It gets passed around, misleading everyone, robbing everyone whom it comes into contact with and eventually it is exposed. Once exposed it gets destroyed.

Your life is worth much more than that.

Suzanne Jones is a Certified Hypnotherapist and has a blog at http://pristineperception.com/. She blogs about her experiences in and the importance of perception, self trust and intuition. Most of her writings are based on factual events either experienced by herself or those around her. Suzanne believes that through someone else, your own truth may be realized. For a free Hypnosis relaxation audio or free Information guide on Hypnosis and Self Trust visit http://pristineperception.com/

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