How Your Emotions Reflect Your World

We don't have to look far to come home to our narcissistic selves. If we see life full of suffering we may be undergoing a lamentable transformation. If there's anger, just now, for the injustice 'surely anyone can see!' then there's probably an unreconciled frustration, and a block to our feelings deep down, within. If we're unstimulated regarding what we see in our world there may be little feeling going on closer to home.

Proof of this truism is cited in the following two quotes:

A person sees in the world what they carry in their heart.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
(Adapted for gender inclusivity)

Just as water reflects the face,
so one human heart reflects another.
~Proverbs 27:19 (NRSV)

DISCOVERING THE REFLECTIVE WORLD

We're in a good position to self-diagnose if only we can be honest about ourselves, with ourselves. This sort of psychology is not rocket science.

We may open the way to greater happiness simply by negotiating these fundamental truths - for instance, if we're angry, why? A person battling with anger within will generally find themselves angry without; everyone else will know about it. The road-rager is taking out on the world - that innocent driver before them - what's unreconciled within them. There's no point in being ashamed of our anger or its consequences (though we're sure to be, because we've lacked the self-control we all want to be known for). Being ashamed isn't going to resolve our inability to manage our anger. Only by exploring the emotional source of the anger - the 'why' - will we be able to reconcile the vehement energy bubbling away just beneath the surface.

It's the same with our sadness, guilt, grief, and sense of abandonment. Resolving them any way we can - and there's always a way - is the only thing making any sense.

The presence of anything negative in the emotional setting is a critical clue to the climate deep beneath, possibly even unconscious to us. Our emotions, therefore, become important reflectors of how we're really going in life.

WORKING WITH WHAT WE'VE GOT

Sometimes all we have is what we can observe; the way people are treating us, how our interactions are going, and how we're feeling, truthfully, within.

Reflection should be an activity we can do at ease with ourselves, without pressure to think or act a certain way. It's important when dealing with our perceptions - our view of the world that's never 100% correct-that we weigh possibility as more pertinent than fact. It's possible that we're this way or that way; it's possible that another person is this way or that way. These are just possibilities, not facts.

But possibilities are things we can work from. They get us to pause and think. The mere presentation of emotions, in us or in others as they relate to us, can indicate something we ought to know about - something we can do something about.

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How we feel about our world reflects how we feel within about ourselves. The emotions are an important indicator. Living happier requires exploring these emotions; it's asking why. There's nothing to fear in exploring the emotions. A more controlled life stands to be gained.

© 2012 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, FSIA, RSP[Australia]) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min). His blogs are at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com/ and http://inspiringbetterlife.blogspot.com/

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Control Your Emotions to Control Your World

It seems that attitudes, tempers and negative people are becoming a larger part of every day occurrences lately. I contribute a majority of this to ego, drugs, and health habits. When you are surviving on sugar, white flour and, salt, which seems to be the main diet for most people now. Your body reacts to what you put into yourself. You will feel tired, lazy and irritable; and this could cause people to be short tempered with other people. This mixed with the new attitude going around about owning our space in the world could be a setup for disaster. You can be part of the solution and step out of this rat race if you work on yourself a little. One big step would be to work on bad eating habits. The second would be to practice controlling our response to other peoples attitudes.

Many years ago I was one of those people, and then one day it became so clear to me about the path I was on. The very next time you let someone upset you, especially if it's one of those upsets where you are so angry that you just want to get back at them, pay attention to how you feel and why it made you that angry. Many times it's just a matter of feeling as if someone did something deliberately to you personally. Remember, they do not know you. You are an object that happens to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. They are angry with themselves and you happen to be the one to blame for their horrible world that they have created. Why would you want to join them in this place? When you react to their rage it will only escalate the problem more. An example would be road rage over nothing but one person making a human error or perhaps just being ignorant and inconsiderate on the road.

Don't allow yourself to take this personally. Remember this person choose to live everyday in a high tension mood, which is harming their health, they will probably have blood pressure problems and many other health related problems. These type of people will always be upset about something. And one day they will be held accountable; it could be a serious accident, or a sickness from always being in a high emotional state; perhaps the wont have to pay until judgement day; but they will be held accountable. Don't become what you don't like just to make a point or feed your ego. Always remember that what you do will always come back to you, and that will help with letting go of those revengeful feelings.

That is when you will be free; it takes a lot of practice to learn how to let go, but knowing that it's not up to you to punish other people will set you free. Let your ego go, love life and don't allow anyone to rain on your parade. You don't need to be tough all the time. Think about this for a moment; if you feel like you have to bully people to get the respect you need than you are probably insecure with yourself. Acknowledge that and work on becoming more confident. No need to prove yourself by bullying; just know you are a kind and loving person who is working on becoming the best that you can be and your confidence will shine a lot brighter. That is how you gain respect; be a good role model and others will want to be like you. That is how we change the world, not by feeding into the angry hate syndrome.

Change is inevitable; there will always be some type of change occurring, so why not take control and make that change head in the direction that will make you the best that you can be. my articles will be written with that in mind; in hopes that I may bring you helpful information to assist you in your journey. I would like to invite you to visit my website blog where I share personal information of my beliefs and links to sites I believe may be helpful.You are invited to visit http://www.stronghealthtoday.com/

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