The Benefits of Patience

The Benefits of Patience and How to Attain It

Patience is the antidote to controlling a person's anger. I know it may seem simple, just become patient and you will be a happier person, however, it is not that simple and unfortunately it takes a long while to attain. Having patience in a proper way is too beneficial to imagine. I will try to put it into words as to how important it is to be patient and an example of how incredible the act of patience can be.

It isn't just a little cute phrase we say to our children when we tell them "Everyone is a winner as long as you don't get angry". It is in fact true, that yes you wont have a victory in the books if you control your temper but you will definitely be able to handle the loss a lot better if you swallow your pride and admit that it was a defeat. Being patient with yourself is the true act of victory because when you become angry you lose yourself. You don't act yourself, when you are patient you are in full control of your mind and your actions. They say "Slow and Steady wins the Race." Of course having patience and taking things slowly will prevail. However, that is for a different discussion.

When a person is patient he brings out all the calm from within himself. It is ideal for a person to be accustomed to the attribute of patience because it is the source of all good character traits and is the root of all virtue. Everyone always looks up to the people who can endure and suffer insults without returning them. People envy the person who can hear their own disgraces and swallow their pride rather than have him spit back and defend his honor. It is those type of people, the patient people, that mankind strives to be. I always hear people coming up to me and saying "I wish I could control my anger but I am physically not able to be patient." When someone tells me they physically cannot control something that is all mental I jump at the opportunity to help. Being patient means you have to swallow your pride and admit defeat when you are wrong. A person has to understand that his reply is not what is necessary. Most often when people do introspection they always think to themselves, "I wish I had not have done that." Patience is the antithesis of anger. If you want to control your anger you need to learn to be patient. A patient person is the one who always wins in the end.

This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website http://www.HappinessDirect.com/

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How to Control Your Anger and Practice Patience

Today the most common problem with every second person is to manage his anger and remain cool and contented. In your daily life you usually come across people who are the victims of short temper and anxiety. People avoid their company and try to keep them at arms length so as to avoid their fury and anger. I sometimes really pity these people as they are the slaves of their unwanted and undesirable habit and need help to overcome this malicious habit. So here I am with a few tips that can really work magic in solving their problem.

Anger is a state of trauma and turmoil. A person loses his senses in this state and it blocks his mind to think straight and positive. What you need to do is to remain cool in adverse circumstances. Always give space to others. Be prepared to face any sort of situation while dealing with others. It's not necessary that people will agree to all your proposals. Usually you come up with an idea and without doubting its validity expects others to accept it and when they don't, you get furious and start hot arguments that usually result in untold anger and quarrel. This is absolutely ridiculous attitude on your part. you need to be patient in listening to others and honouring their opinion.

You should always be ready to tolerate others. Tolerance is a good personality trait and those who inhibit it are lucky. At times you are stuck up in such nasty situations that even if you are cool headed, you feel like bursting up in rage any second. This is the juncture where you need to use your weapons of tolerance and endurance. Be brave and remain in control of your emotions. Getting unduly emotional will take you nowhere. Neither it will resolve the issue nor will it relieve the tension. Rather it will exaggerate the problem.

Most of you think that if you are a strict and quarrelsome person people will be apprehensive of you and you' ll have an upper hand on them. In other words a fierce person can dominate others easily. So fake and unrealistic this belief is. Mostly teachers think the same. They get mad at their students on petty things thinking that it will keep them timid, but they are totally wrong as this attitude leads to frustration in students and develops obnoxious feelings in them. You need to be soft and firm in your dealings with your students and others as well. Love and politeness can change hearts and minds like a magic wand. Anger and fury can demolish them like an angry storm.

Another way of managing your anger is to avoid communication with others when you are angry or in a bad mood. If you feel tension mounting up, leave that place for the time being to prevent any unfavourable situation. Later on when the heat has receded, try to sort out things sensibly. This shows your strength and control of mind. What you need to do is to remain composed in times of crises. Instead of bursting out your anger on others just take a deep breath, drink a glass of water and be relaxed. Don't ever forget that words spoken and things done in anger may have disastrous consequences. And no matter how much you repent, it will be in vain. This is absolutely true about situations that provoke people to commit abhorrent crimes like murders.

You are the best manager of your personality and habits. Mould yourself into a commendable human being, who is in complete control of his mind and remains cool, contented and composed at times of chaos and crises. Make patience your first and foremost priority.

Hi! This Naheed Haq from Pakistan. Here I am with a new article for my readers which I hope will entertain them.

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