Three Easy Ways to Control Your Anger

Do you think you have some sort of anger problem? Nearly every day on TV you see angry people usually a married couple arguing over their relationship, as they are washing the dishes. They nearly always end up shattering the dishes all over the kitchen.

After that you will get their absolutely angry teenage kid come down from his bedroom and start shrieking at his parent, "I really hate you stupid people!" while at the same time jumping up and down on his cell phone thus smashing it to bits. The only reason the teenager considers it fine to shriek and do away with his cell phone is because he observes his parents put-on the same act day after day. After the teenager has had his go the toddler goes into hysterics and starts jumping up and down on his toys. And the reason the toddler is so angry is because everybody else in the house is constantly shrieking and throwing all kinds of things about.

But here I am talking about TV soaps where the anger is made up and does not cause any damage like real life anger can.

I should think that almost everyone has felt anger at some point in their life. Anger is after all an emotion that is needed, but it is vital to keep a check on this powerful and sometimes destructive emotion so that it cannot take control and cause mayhem.

As you know when you become angry you frequently behave illogically and this can be very destructive for you and the people around you. Anger control is then extremely essential and there are three easy ways which you can apply to assist you to control your anger.

The first way for you to control your anger is to stop and think about what you are doing then take a deep breath letting your diaphragm really expand then count to ten as you slowly let the breath out.

This is one of the most effectual and straightforward methods of anger control and it actually works. When you breathe deeply from your diaphragm you are practicing a well-known relaxation method that will relax the tension in your muscles. And by counting to ten you are dissociating yourself from the situation and your reaction to it, and giving yourself time to calm down and think more reasonably about the circumstances.

The second Way for you to control your anger is to do something physical, like going for a brisk walk, or going to the gym. Do anything as long as it is vigorous so that you can use up your pent-up frustration thus leaving you feeling calmer.

The third way to control your anger is to reconstruct your sentences to 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements. So as an alternative of accusing people with 'you didn't do this,' say something like, "I was annoyed because I wanted some assistance." This will hopefully start-up a line of communication because communication is vital in order to stop mix-ups. Also communication will let everyone know just what is annoying and why the anger is there in the first place. By using these straightforward steps you can make your life and others a lot more harmonious and pleasant. Good Luck!

Dion Daly is a certified trainer in hypnosis, a master practitioner in NLP and TLT. He also has a degree in metaphysics.

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The Foolishness of Anger

I don't know any person who will appreciate being labelled a fool, even in their most horrible or senseless mistakes and decisions. Often we wish people would understand and not be too hard on us when our actions and behavior are questionable. We could find ourselves in a very destructive and injurious behavior to others but not regard that as foolishness. Consider it this way, as much as we hate to admit, a person with anger tantrum lends himself or herself to foolishness. My involvement in the ministry and the lives of people since the seventies had brought me face to face with terrible anger.

This article seeks to address the foolishness of anger, especially among christians, the causes of anger, the effects of anger and the solutions to this debilitating emotion. There are about 234 (two hundred and thirty-four) mention of anger in the Holy Bible. Anger is one of the strongest of all passions, therefore requires a heavy dose of God's grace to tame its destructiveness. It's a human wrath express through force and indiscretion. Anger victims are always left with wounds, scars,, hurts, pains and regrets. This is the most agitated condition of feeling, an outburst of wrath from inward indignation. If we can't control this emotion, it will become our master. That is not the place you want to be. Going forward, it's appropriate we examine probable causes of anger. This varies depending upon how we're wired, on cultural biases that had been passed down, and circumstances that confront us. There are myriad of factors and causes that can contribute to this emotion, we'll look at some below.

Probable causes of Anger:

* Ill-treatment
* Offenses
* Discrimination
* Rejection
* Jealousy
* Hatred
* Repugnant behavior and habits

As I alluded to earlier, in many years of counseling and human interactions, I've watched lives, homes, friendships, marriages and churches brought down by the above mentioned causes. I've sat in total silence and amazement watching couples who came for counseling ripped each other apart with words and rage unbecoming of marriage couples.

I've been called into homes whereby on arrival looked like a tornado went through the house. You wouldn't believe the destruction caused by anger between two adults who expressed love and care to each other. The effect of anger when let out without control can be fatal. Years ago I was caught right in between a husband and wife who were so furious with each other that any furniture around became a weapon. I had to duck my head to avoid sustaining a major injury from the flying objects. Truly it's foolishness to be taken over by the spirit of anger. Almost every human person has this tendency for whatever reason, but there are those who have become servants to this emotion.

Have you ever experienced anger that led you to regrettable actions afterwards? What could have triggered that?, how did you picked up the pieces and licked the wounds to move on? There are things that we rather not discuss and in many cases, it's not always the right solution. It's better sometimes to let the air out before the boiling point.

Do these things and you'll safeguard yourself from the spirit of anger:

a) Avoid contentious and agitative situations, It's written, " A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger" (Proverbs15:1) KJV.

b) Don't store up wrongs and offenses.

c) Seek the path of peace, forgiveness and reconciliation as quickly as possible.

d)Practice the act of turning to God in prayer when under pressure and displeasure.

e) Learn to walk away without feeling defeated.

Take this scripture to heart and meditate upon it, "Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry; for anger resteth in the bosom of fools" (Ecclessiastes 7:9). Anger can only find a resting place in the hearts of those who are without proper understanding. We must seek wisdom and understanding more particularly to avert the venom of anger in our lives. Remember, when you lose control over your spirit, you've lost your defence.

By the power of the Spirit of Christ and his abundant grace we're able to live above this emotion, never to be fearful anymore. His grace is sufficient to us in this area also.

Dr.Ephraim John Udofia is the founder and Presiding Bishop of Living Faith Apostolic Ministries. International Mission-intensive ministry, both in foreign and home missions with currently over six churches in three countries. Dr.Udofia is the author of over seven life-changing books. He's passionately involved in church planting, crusades, conferences and ministers' training since the seventies. Dr.Udofia holds a Bsc. in Management, minor in accounting, an MBA, and Doctorate in Ministry (Dmin) with major in Missions. He is a former Ceo of Precious Jewels Inc. for 19 years. Also a former banker and security representative holding both State and Federal licences. A financial counselor, motivational speaker, mentor, marriage counsellor and an outstanding dedicated family man. He is happily married with five grown children.

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Anger Management Classes Teach What Most Of Us Need Badly, More Empathy!

Anger management classes help students develop a number of steps to finding the proper techniques and strategies to counter their anger problems. Many people want to know what those skills and strategies are without having to take the classes. They want a small example of what they might learn and how it would affect their life.

To satisfy that hunger for information, here is a small idea of what you can expect to learn. One of the most important aspects is that anger management classes teach empathy, among many others skills necessary for effective anger management.

How to Recognize Triggers
This is one of the vital tools that anger management classes can teach. Knowing what triggers anger is vital. Once that it is known, the student can learn how to get around those triggers and how to deal with them if the worst happens.

Triggers can be as specific as insults about their mom to being walked away from. Once the specific triggers are determined, they can be countered. Being able to recognize the stress those triggers cause, and learning the right strategies to effectively calm down are some of the best counters.

Developing Empathy
The first step is to sympathize with the other person. Being able to understand how your anger is affecting them is crucial. When the student can use that to reach a true level of empathy is when the classes have peaked.

This is when the student actually rethinks their actions because they care about the outcome for the source of their anger. Online anger management is great for teaching empathy to those who have chronic anger problems. Don't let anger, or fear, stop you from bettering yourself in just a few quick sessions.

Responding to Anger
One of the real secrets of mastering anger is to respond to anger. What does that mean? That means you shouldn't react to anger, but respond to it. Those two words can lead to two completely different outcomes. Some people kick into a natural reflex when they get angry.

The empathy that anger management classes can instill will help the student calm their mind and start thinking rationally about the situation. By responding to anger, the student will be able to communicate how they truly feel and understand how the other person feels.

Back Off and Rethink
It actually takes more empathy than it is given credit for, when backing away from an angered discussion. It's a great sign that the empathy that was learned throughout the classes is taking effect. It will give both of you time to rethink your perspective and accept of some the circumstances that were present. This will give the student time to empathize even more with the opposing party, and if necessary, compromise. When we think of a common category of people that lack empathy, the first thing that comes to mind are thieves.

It's clear that anger management classes teach empathy and that it's crucial for the successful students taking anger management classes. The empathy the student can learn will affect every aspect of their course and will start to have an immediately positive affect on their life. Empathy is a skill that can be learned by taking anger classes online.

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.

He is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Click here for more information on Anger Management Classes

Dr. Ari Novick is a psychotherapist who provides world class Anger Management Classes Online.

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