Best Tips for Controlling Anger

Controlling anger is possibly one of the hardest things to do. When a person gets angry it is because he wants something to go in his favor and yet it directly contradicts what that person wants. If you think that it is extreme I will explain it in simpler terms. If a baby starts spilling things on the floor your reaction is to get angry. Why? Because it directly contradicts what you wanted. A parent doesn't want things to be spilled on the floor and since it directly contradicted what the parent wanted it got them angry. Try this practice after every time you get angry and you will start to notice and catch the things that triggered your anger before it happens again. Furthermore there are a few other practical techniques that could assist you in controlling anger.

Firstly, a good technique is by setting aside money for every time you get angered or raged. It doesn't have to be a large sum that will break into your bank account, but at the same time it should be significant enough that it wont bother you to get angry. Second, It is important to not make eye contact with the person you feel you may be about to fight or argue with. When you make eye contact with another person it escalates the situation and could turn out to be a lot worse just by simply making eye contact. Thirdly, a good practice is to sleep on it. If you get enraged it is quite natural for a person to say whatever comes to his mind, but, if he is careful, and walks away the situation will automatically become less tense. Therefore, it is a great idea to walk away and sleep on it, chances are that when you wake up in the morning your feelings towards that other person will be much less intense.

We need to put things in perspective, we need to actually see if there is a real reason to be angry at this particular person or thing? Generally speaking when we take offense to something it is because the action or thing was done to "me". That particular person feels targeted and attacked and because his ego was bruised he is going to react in anger. A person has a defense mechanism that is triggered the moment he feels slandered or under attack, immediately his anger kicks in, so to combat the attack. The Best tip to controlling anger is by asking yourself one thing; "Is this going to be important in 20 years time?" A person has to realize that some things are simply meant to be left alone. You will notice you will be a lot happier in the long run when you don't make particular issues your own.

This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website. His website provides many informational and inspiring posts and articles on what it means to be happy and touches upon many topics such as Anger, Self-Control, Patience, Relationship Advice, and much more. You can visit his website at http://www.HappinessDirect.com/


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How To Control Anger - The First Effective Step That Is Easy To Remember In A Crisis

Do you get angry? Of course you do, it is a natural human emotion. Can you manage this emotion (frustration, anxiety, stress), or do you sometimes become a BEAST?

Being

Easily

Angered (and)

Saying (or doing)

Terrible things

Thinking of oneself as a beast may seem a little extreme, however acting like one can cause extreme consequences.

Many methods have been taught regarding anger management. I have chosen to share with you one main tenant, or way to "tame the BEAST." This is a serious subject, but it helps if one can bring some levity to it which aides in being able to honestly look at one's behavior in a non-judgmental way (to laugh at oneself if need be). It is also important to keep the methods simple and accessible.

In setting the stage or foundation for the first step we will consider the perspective or character of a warrior, a generous, ethical, patient, enthusiastic, focused and wise person.

The tool (sword), of this warrior is forged from awareness, which is the first step in quelling or taming the beast.

Awareness--A warrior going into battle or even at rest for that matter is always ready, alert and aware of their surroundings. They must be in order to defend themselves and their domain. I am not talking about picking a fight, or condoning carrying weapons (especially for a person with true anger issues), so please do not misunderstand the analogy. That being said, the warrior is focused, using "bare awareness" with all senses, as they patrol the perimeter of their space.

An example of bare awareness using the visual sense would be looking at the objects around you. If the warrior were patrolling a wooded area he/she would look at the shape of the trees, scanning, not thinking "there is a tree, a pine tree and I wonder if anyone is in the woods." She/he would just notice the outline of the trees while they moved in a slow purposeful and relaxed fashion. If someone or something comes out of the woods or there is any movement at all they are going to notice it, whether it is by sight, sound or vibration.

The sword is really a symbol for this awareness, for cutting through all the obstacles to being focused, relaxed and having self-discipline. The sword represents a calm, clear and trained mind.

With a mind like that you can't help but have self-discipline, or the ability to choose your actions at any moment. If someone came running out of the woods and started screaming at the warrior it could go two ways.

An undisciplined person would start swinging the sword (words, fists or other weapons), and reap the consequences of such action. The warrior (disciplined person) would continue to use bare awareness, and observe the screaming persons actions. in a non judgmental way. The warrior would not be thinking "Oh this jerk deserves to die for threatening me." his/her mind would be at rest just evaluating the threat level and then "choosing" an appropriate response, not just acting out of habit. But now we have moved into the second step, action. Look for this step explained in another article, and in the mean time practice bare awareness as much as possible.

Copyright 2012, Laura Folk - How To Control Anger

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The Many Costs of Anger

Anger is thought to be the black sheep of emotions. Although anger is simply one of many human emotions, it seems to be the hardest for people to express or manage. Our ability to control how we express anger is influenced by many things. These things include our family of origin, which is a big factor. How did our parents express anger? Were we abused? Were we allowed to get angry?

Anger is unexpressed pain. Many anger management clients are carrying rage and resentment from events they experienced long ago. When anger is not expressed, it does not "go away". It grows, festers and can lead to health issues, resentments (which create overall hostility), and the inability to let go of the past. Those who seek help in an anger management class quickly learn, poorly expressed anger controls us and can severely damage our relationships, freedom, health, jobs and often induces depression and deep self-hatred.

Anger Management classes are filling the gap. It is unfortunate that traditional schools do not teach us about ourselves and our feelings. Many parents either model poor anger management skills or don't pay enough attention to their children's psychological needs.

So just how or where are we able to learn the importance of having control over our feelings?
The recent increase in anger management programs is the result of a real need. Many adults are carrying around old anger and rage or acting out in ways that hurt them or others.

Anger management classes include both court-ordered and voluntary clients. Some clients lack basic emotional intelligence that can lead to peace and harmonious relationships. Other's behaviors have led them to arrests or even incarceration. Many of these situations become "wake up calls" that can lead to a new found awareness and willingness to change.

If your anger has resulted in lost jobs, failed relationships, poor health or legal/financial problems it would certainly be in your best interest to seek out help in an anger management course that can teach you what you may have never learned about anger and it's consequences. If you have the "willingness", you will find the "tools" to help you.

You can find anger management classes through your school district, local faith-based institution, heath insurance provider or simply do an internet search. The point is there is help available. Don't wait until negative consequences befall you before you reach out for assistance.

Shannon Munford MS
http://www.daybreakservices.com/
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Anger: Where Does It Come From?

There are two main negative aspects to anger which can be broken down in to each of their own categories. One which will be discussed now, and one which will be discussed later. There is the personal damage of what it does to a person and there is the Social Damage of what is does to the people around you.

Anger is not an easy thing to control and it is quite a rampant problem and issue. Because we live in a generation without any patience or waiting, it is very easy for a person to get angry, and for a whole myriad of reasons. There have been many times where people have gotten angry and said things they wish they have never said or did things they wish they had never done. Often, you will hear of marriages and families that have been broken and destroyed through anger. We have seen hate crimes committed against races and groups, but we have to ask ourselves a few things. Why? Where does this anger come from?

Before we know and understand where it comes from we first need to understand how much and how badly it negatively affects a person. When a person becomes enraged he loses his mind, his ability to think, and causes him to do and say so many terrible things, all of which he never would have done in a normal atmosphere. Funnily, there are a few types of actions that seem to trigger anger which you would never think would cause a person to get angry. Firstly, there is "Wrap Rage", which is the anger that results from being unable to open a package or wrapping. Secondly, there is "Computer Rage", which is the anger that results from using a computer. Lastly, there is "Cart Rage", which is the anger and frustration that results from a supermarket being out of stock on a particular item.

All of these type of rages are all something that you would never think to do or would ever think could actually occur, however, statistics show that these three types of rages are more common than you might think. A person who gets angry frequently loses all his quality of life. A person who constantly acts in an improper way and only looks to slander or argue with other people is a person to stay away from. Also, anger causes a person to be stubborn. When a person is stubborn because of his anger he wont come to confess to being wrong and wont admit the truth even though the truth is very clear and written right in front of his face. So we see what type of damage anger can do to a person.

This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website. His website provides many informational and inspiring posts and articles on what it means to be happy and touches upon many topics such as Anger, Self-Control, Patience, Relationship Advice, and much more. You can visit his website at http://www.HappinessDirect.com/


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Transforming the Energy of Anger

How do we learn to deal with the most powerful and improperly expressed energy on the planet, ANGER? This emotion resides within each one of us. Yet, we either deny its existence or use it as a primary motivating force in an attempt to manipulate situations and others to our will, never creating a desired outcome in the bigger picture. Anger unacknowledged and blindly unleashed, is toxic and destructive. But when we learn to identify its presence within us, we can channel this potent impetus positively and creatively. Anger is one of our greatest teachers, calling our attention to change and to heal at the very core of our being.

The root of anger exists deep within our emotional body. Feelings associated with anger are frustration, injustice, impatience, intolerance, and judgment...just to name a few. If we break our feelings down into either love or fear, anger lives in the realm of fear. As children, we were exposed to the fear and anger of our caregivers and society. Anger could have been the dominant energy, or suppressed in a household that openly expressed love. But because this planet is dualistic in nature, fear and love are interchangeable within our emotional body. We cannot know love without fear, peace without anger, or calm without chaos, and none of these emotional states can be experienced simultaneously.

What calls our attention to anger is its expression. In either an outward display or an internal process, our conscious control of this energy is the necessary step into transforming the destructive to the constructive. Until we become aware of the energy of anger within us, our expression will remain primitive or in the model of our familial pattern. The end result will be an illness that manifests from repressing our anger, or a violent episode that erupts from our lack of control, releasing a blanket of debris, polluting our self and our environment.

Rage is an outward expression of anger by those of us who validate our self through extreme verbal and non-verbal displays of energy. We scream, yell, throw tantrums, and physically contort our body to convey a message of displeasure. When enraged, we cannot see, hear, or sense anything else and are locked into the "red zone" like a vicious canine. Ground breaking Psychologist, Carl Jung wrote "Whatever is rejected from the self appears as an event." Unchecked, rage turns violent as we assault our self from the inside out during extreme stress, or surrounding circumstances react with the same energy. Even if violence does not ensue, the actions transpired by rage equate to a bomb going off, resulting in irreparable harm to all involved.

A more subtle yet equally toxic expression of anger is that of the passive aggressive. Covert verbal and non-verbal communication occurs usually in softer tones, sarcasm, silence, and manipulative messaging to convey our madness to others. Unlike the immediate/impulsive nature of rage, passive aggression is a seething, simmering energy that brews inside of us for longer periods of time. When expressed, it is as intense and damaging as rage without the drama.

Another internal process of anger that is often not acknowledged is depression. Depression occurs from anger turned inward and also has a devastating effect on those in contact with it. Depression is a self-imposed prison of guilt, anguish, and isolation, resulting from insurmountable anger. There is so much unresolved anger buried so deeply that navigating out of this hell is near impossible because of our limited beliefs and emotional turmoil.

Acknowledging the energy of anger as a primary shadow character in our lives and our world, we have an opportunity to learn a great deal from this master manipulator. If we look at anger as a tree with roots, we can trace it to the very foundation of our family, culture, and society. Inequality and dominance apparent in familial roles, cultural beliefs, and societal stigmas would naturally breed anger based on inherent injustice. Ironically, this realization can be comforting as we begin to unearth this part of our self and discover we are born into our emotional issues that inevitably need healing. Moving beyond the past into the present of our adulthood is where we can make the choice to take responsibility and change our patterns. If we decline this responsibility, we compound the problem. Anger is an indicator that something needs to change...that something is us. Otherwise, we continue to shadow our world with our unhealed negative emotions.

In practicing present moment awareness, we begin to truly get in touch with the angry part of our self. Intimidating at first, we can make a monster of this molehill because the many positive qualities we encompass become over shadowed by this primary character. When not working from a place of love, anger is the alternative for most of us. The physiological addiction to anger is a reality that is sorely overlooked. The physical "rush" comes from increasing blood pressure and tension in our upper body that gives us a false sense of power and strength. Literally, the hair on the back of our neck stands up as we lean forward into aggressive posturing, attacking our bodies from the inside out. But this is not real power, and our addiction to the recreation of this sensation will ultimately compromise our well being.

Since anger is a destructive force in the unconscious mind built upon years of conditioning, our conscious awareness will afford us the opportunity to use this energy wisely and creatively. Wisdom will surface from the ability to observe our feelings (including anger), without being swept away; this practice of non-judgmental awareness takes time to cultivate and is solidly supported by connecting with others who are consciously cultivating their individual emotional awareness.

Our living experience in the world, will offer us countless opportunities to show us our anger as part of our "Human Condition". How we conduct our self with this new awareness is our choice. If we continuously react to negative energy with the like, we will overshadow the light of our being and those around us. If we embrace our anger like a caring parent (our love) tending to a crying child (our fear), then we have enormous potential to positively transform our self, our relationships, and our planet.

Transforming Anger workshops are held throughout the year. For more information or to discuss this topic one-on-one, contact Julia George of Aquarian Age at 561-750-9292 or email aquarianagegallery@bellsouth.net. Post comments on http://blog.aquarianawareness.com

Laura Castanza majored in Communication as a means to develop her creative expression, artistic style, and overcome interpersonal obstacles. Because of her life experience, and dedication to reaching higher levels of consciousness, she produces written works that blend both psychology and spirituality with the intention of healing of both the writer and the reader. Laura has many published works and consistently shares Universal Consciousness with all those who come in contact with her. Phone: 561.862.5055, Email: Lcastanza@yahoo.com

Shadow Worker, Julia George, began studying Jungian Psychology at the age of 12, becoming fascinated with such topics as Universal Consciousness, Intelligence, and the "Shadow". This was no childhood phase as much as it was a signal of her higher purpose. Leaving her hometown in New Jersey for the oceanic atmosphere of South Florida at age 19, Julia would experience a series of significant relationships that would lead her towards universal truth/knowledge obtained by her own personal journey through this life. Now in her 5th decade, she has fully embraced her own "Shadow" and is able to guide others safely out of their own darkness into the light. Phone: 561.750.9292, Email: aquarianagegallery@bellsouth.net


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Controlling Anger: The Social Damage Anger Causes

Who would want to be surrounded by an Angry person? We always see those angry people in the streets screaming at their children, screaming at their wives, or simply screaming at the people around them. How is that any quality of life? I personally wouldn't want to be surrounded by such a person and certainly wouldn't want to become acquainted with such a person. We will see how and why anger is such a terrible characteristic to have.

We all know of that person in our neighborhood or have heard of that one person that constantly gets angry and is hot-headed. Subsequently, it is natural for you to try and stay away from that person, or ignore him, or distance yourself from him. Why? For one simple reason, you feel threatened by such an attitude. People who are are and reinforce their rage with their actions are simply unaware of what they are doing. They do many things in their anger that would not normally do when they are in a calm state or in a state of piece of mine. Anger causes a person to think irrationally and to speak irrationally which triggered a whole range of disputes and fights. We have all heard of the phrase "Getting up on the wrong side of the bed." We all try and distance ourselves from a cranky or moody person because we know it will most probably end badly. It is human nature for a person to try and distance themselves from an angry person and that is why it is important that every person should try and eradicate this terrible trait of Anger from within them. An angry person simply does not find favor in the eyes of other people. Moreover, the angry person is more likely to be hated among other people. His deeds will not be accepted by the people around him.

Furthermore, an angry person is a burden to his family. His family has to constantly hear his rage and complaints and may often be the subject to which the rage and anger is directed. A family would find it quite difficult to live with an angry person. A person who creates an atmosphere of fear in his household because of his anger is like a murderer squandering his families ability to grow outside their realm of fear. People need to distance themselves from anger, that is why it is so common and often where angry people are rejected and not kept close by. The ills of anger are self evident, causing a person to be disliked and avoided. Remember; "Anger is one letter short of Danger".

This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website http://www.HappinessDirect.com/


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Infidelity and Marriage Problems Improve Through Taking Anger Management Classes

It is a well-known fact that one of the most common reasons for people to seek divorce is anger. Like it is been said "anger destroys and rarely reforms". As a result of anger and bitter upset, many marriages have been torn apart. When one party expresses too much anger, while the other been meek, the outcome is usually less, but if both parties are bird of a feather, then the whole house will never cease from boiling. However, one question is paramount; how can marriages be saved from the blows of anger?

In view of this, anger management classes have been created to save many marriages at the brim of collapse. From various classes that have held, the outcomes were satisfactory. Many reasons cause anger in different people, but in a marital relationship, anger is often caused by some certain reasons. The function of the anger management classes is to recognize the main cause of anger and proffer to it a better solution.

There is no river without a source; likewise, there is no irruption of anger without a cause. The first thing the anger management classes will do is to let you recognize the major thing the causes your anger. If you don't know what makes you go angry, then you will find difficulties getting your problem solved. But once you get what makes you angry, the problem is half-solved. California leads the pack for the most marriages and the most divorces.

The second approach, which anger management classes do, employ in helping you out with your anger, is to train you to have a strong self-control. If you can control yourself especially your emotions, then you are free to handle any emotional situation and, therefore, control your anger. The classes will offer you various ways through which you can control yourself. There are various activities to help you with self-control, e.g., writing, walking, etc. This will, however, be under the supervision of an anger therapist.

Another service the anger management classes will render is relief from sexual frustration. Sex is the salt and life of every marital relationship. A discord on the bed may tear the home apart. When there is sexual dissatisfaction, a partner may become angry which may lead to irrevocable separation. Therefore, the anger management will help the couple to resolve their sex life and save the marriage from collapse.

Nagging is another cause of anger. It is a form of passive but strong aggression. When nagging is not well managed, things can go out of hand and put asunder into the knotted tie of marriage. Comfort and repose is generally sought in marriage, however, with a nagging partner, the marriage may turn oven for both.

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.

He is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Click here for more information on Anger Management Classes

Dr. Ari Novick is a psychotherapist who provides world class Anger Management Classes Online.


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When Anger Management Does Not Work

Sometimes no matter how hard you try, no matter how well you say it and no matter how politically correct you are somebody will respond to you with the nature of a fool.

In our anger management classes we give very clear directions to our students on how they should communicate their feelings. We encourage our students to use I statements. We teach them to recognize their feelings and then express them in a way that is most likely to be heard. We ask our clients to make sure their desires, need and concerns are clearly communicated.

But what if the individual you are communicating with could care less about your feelings? What if they are so consumed with themselves they can barely hear you speaking? What if their behavior never changes?

Some of our clients would say, "Well that is when I get loud" or "That is when I slap them across the head to get their attention." Although you may get their attention (and maybe slapped back) you will not necessarily get them to hear you. In fact aggressive communication only appears to keep the negative cycle going.

There is no doubt some people only respond to consequences. For whatever reason discomfort may be the only way to get their attention.

So are we advocating violence? No we are talking about natural consequences to ignorant actions.

Below are a few examples:

"If you continue to scream at me, I am going to ask you to leave."

"If you hit me, I am calling the police"

"If you refuse to do you share of the work, I have to talk to management."

"If you don't do your homework, there will be no TV."

"If you keep talking to her, we can not be together."

Once you have made your desires clear, and once you have expressed to an individual how their behavior effects you, if that person is not unwilling or unable to change, there must be consequences.

A consequence is an announcement to yourself and the other individual that you respect yourself enough to set boundaries, but a boundary is only as good as your willingness to carry it out.

You have heard the saying, "it is not a threat, it is a promise" Consequences are a promise to yourself that you will not allow others to walk over you. It is a promise you make to yourself that you will not permit someone else to treat you less than you would treat yourself.

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Shannon Munford MS
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Anger Management: How to Succeed

How does one succeed at anger management? It's important to recognize that angry feelings are common among all people. The way an individual handles an angry situation determines whether success in anger management has occurred. Though it can be difficult, there are several methods of handling anger that can benefit those who learn them.

The initial reaction a person has when his ire is raised is to attack with words or, worse, in a physical way. People should endeavor to squash these volatile reactions by leaving the area in which the event is occurring. An example of this is when an employee angers another worker by criticizing his work. The mad employee should leave the room and allow his emotions to fade before being around the critical employee again.

There are cases in which an individual is unable to leave an environment in which angry feelings have been produced. When this occurs, the person should remove himself mentally from the toxic surroundings. He can do this by counting to 50 or reciting a well known phrase or sayings in his head. This provides relief from negative feelings so the person can handle the situation without volatility.

Another great way to managing being angry is to circumvent the emotion altogether. A way to do this is to identify the situations that provoke anger in an individual. If a person keeps track of the types of situations which provoke an angry response, he can attempt to avoid these types of circumstances so he stays calm.

Anger management classes teach skills that help people solve disagreements. One great benefit of learning these methods is that it causes people to focus on positive resolutions rather than just the angry emotions swirling around them. A person can enroll in a class through a mental health agency or community center.

There are certain individuals that have a tremendous problem with angry impulses. These people should undergo professional counseling in order to fight this serious problem. Often the key in therapy is to identify the roots of why a person reacts with rage. Find this type of formal counseling from individual psychologists, mental health centers and social service agencies.

Violent feelings can result in verbal abuse or even fisticuffs. It is imperative that those who have problems dealing with mad feelings get help. These folks can apply tips which will help them regain control and their composure and they can also get professional counseling which allows them to achieve anger management.

Get more details and information about how you can learn to more effectively and easily address anger management triggers. Find the most comprehensive and complete anger management class to give you the tools you need today


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PTSD and Anger Management - Issues With Returning to Society

Not long ago, I was talking to a combat veteran who was decorated for his valor in combat, and rightfully so after I heard the stories. He also had some injuries, and dealt with food poisoning while in the service. His injuries keep him from doing many things these days, and he is a disabled veteran, but he is really working hard, and trying to make money and keep a job all the same. It is challenging to return to society coming from a place where aggression is favored as a valuable asset to his team and fellow soldiers - and then to step into a society which has become so weak, and so politically correct, that he feels lost. Okay so let's talk about this shall we?

You see, I'm not one to let anyone off the hook for their anger, aggression, or PTSD issues. I'm not a politically correct psychologist and I believe certain behavior is inexcusable, and everyone knows how our society operates, however as we are emasculating the males in our society, we may be causing some of the problem, and it is just that much more obvious when dealing with a former combat veteran, they really stand out in that regard. Mostly because while in the service, especially in Iraq or Afghanistan, they couldn't afford to take any crap from anyone, and as soon as someone started anything with them, they put an end to that problem right then and there.

Here the United States, he explained to me that it's quite difficult for him even when standing in line perhaps getting a cup of coffee not to get angry at someone for something they have said, or some comment they might have made to him, or even to someone else. You see, he risked his life, and had his friends killed so that Americans could live free, and nonchalantly go about their daily lives without a care in the world.

Yes, it is great to be an American, and we live in an abundant and free society, one we take for granted even though we never should. He saw the other side of the game in parts of the world that we wouldn't enjoy traveling to, or even feel safe for one day, and we certainly wouldn't drink the local water. "We have it too good here," he told me, "people just don't understand," yes, that is true, most of us don't, but I do, and I thought you should know. Indeed I hope you will please consider all this and think on it.

Lance Winslow has launched a new provocative series of eBooks on various important Self Help Topics such as anger management and others. Lance Winslow is a retired Founder of a Nationwide Franchise Chain, and now runs the Online Think Tank; http://www.worldthinktank.net/


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Learn How to Get Your Anger Management Problem Under Control

Most people are influenced by their emotions when happy or sad. Anger is a negative emotion that often manifests itself when you are offended by something or someone. It is quite okay to get angry, as you are only expressing how you truly feel. However, when anger overtakes our senses and becomes uncontrollable, it could easily lead to destructive behavior. This problem has resulted in many crimes and violent outbursts that have led to imprisonment. Anger problems have been responsible for the end of countless marriages often as a result of violence.

Even more alarming is the fact that globally, 300, 000 people are killed annually due to interpersonal violence, according to the World Health Organization. In addition, it could be the reason why you cannot hold down a job or even have good relationships with your spouse, friends, or family. The only way to avoid going to jail is learning how to manage your anger. Anger classes are often prescribed to most people in prison but you do not have to wait until you commit a crime to sign up for these classes. Read on to understand how taking anger management classes could help avoid jail time.

Most people are quite apprehensive about taking anger classes mainly because they have no idea what it entails. You can take individual anger management classes, with your family, or in a group. If you opt for group counseling, you will find that the rest of the people are just like you. They could be parents, students, mothers, sons, or daughters who are having problems controlling anger just like you. Thus, you have no cause to feel out of place. Therapists, counselors, and anger teachers will work with you for as long as you need the classes.

Do not expect that you will learn not to get angry from anger management classes. These classes are meant to teach you how to deal with your anger constructively. Instead of resorting to violence every time you are wronged, you will learn subtle reactions that are appropriate in resolving your anger. In fact, you will know how to recognize your feelings of anger and to ensure they do not emerge into full-blown anger. This awareness is crucial in anger management because it becomes easy for you to stop, think rationally, and let your anger subside.

The capacity to control your impulses goes a long way in making the right decisions. Once you are able to acknowledge that you have the ability to choose how to respond to offending situations, you gain great self-control. This self-control boosts your confidence, which improves your behaviors and general way of life. You become happy and have less conflict with other people. As such, it will be hard to find yourself throwing things, lifting a hand against someone else or even engaging in other destructive behaviors. After completing your anger management classes, you will find it easy to communicate your feelings to others and also empathize with other people. Indeed, with such benefits, taking anger management classes could help avoid jail time.

After acknowledging that you need to know how to control your anger, you can then proceed to find an anger management class near you. You can find anger management classes online, in your local community, or simply look for a credible therapist. The counselor will first assess your anger problem and then conceive a suitable plan for your case. It is best to attend a comprehensive 12 hour anger management classes that incorporate discussion, interaction, and instruction elements of a holistic approach.

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.

He is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Click here for more information on Anger Management Classes

Dr. Ari Novick is a psychotherapist who provides world class Anger Management Classes Online.


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The Benefits of Patience

The Benefits of Patience and How to Attain It

Patience is the antidote to controlling a person's anger. I know it may seem simple, just become patient and you will be a happier person, however, it is not that simple and unfortunately it takes a long while to attain. Having patience in a proper way is too beneficial to imagine. I will try to put it into words as to how important it is to be patient and an example of how incredible the act of patience can be.

It isn't just a little cute phrase we say to our children when we tell them "Everyone is a winner as long as you don't get angry". It is in fact true, that yes you wont have a victory in the books if you control your temper but you will definitely be able to handle the loss a lot better if you swallow your pride and admit that it was a defeat. Being patient with yourself is the true act of victory because when you become angry you lose yourself. You don't act yourself, when you are patient you are in full control of your mind and your actions. They say "Slow and Steady wins the Race." Of course having patience and taking things slowly will prevail. However, that is for a different discussion.

When a person is patient he brings out all the calm from within himself. It is ideal for a person to be accustomed to the attribute of patience because it is the source of all good character traits and is the root of all virtue. Everyone always looks up to the people who can endure and suffer insults without returning them. People envy the person who can hear their own disgraces and swallow their pride rather than have him spit back and defend his honor. It is those type of people, the patient people, that mankind strives to be. I always hear people coming up to me and saying "I wish I could control my anger but I am physically not able to be patient." When someone tells me they physically cannot control something that is all mental I jump at the opportunity to help. Being patient means you have to swallow your pride and admit defeat when you are wrong. A person has to understand that his reply is not what is necessary. Most often when people do introspection they always think to themselves, "I wish I had not have done that." Patience is the antithesis of anger. If you want to control your anger you need to learn to be patient. A patient person is the one who always wins in the end.

This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website http://www.HappinessDirect.com/


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Anger Management Control

Working with people can be a huge challenge. There have been times over the course of my thirty year social work career when I have asked myself why I chose this profession. I have worked in several different areas of social work. My formal training and continuing education credits have concentrated on children with mental illness. Most times I find that when children have mental health issues the adults in their lives do also. The children tend to be opened to addressing their issues; however adults usually get defensive and angry if it suggested that they also need help.

Working with resistive clients is the nature of most of my work. Many clients that I work with have been ordered through a court hearing to cooperate with services. Having someone ordered to work with me, especially if they have anger or control issues sets the relationship up to be a rocky one. Many times the courts will also order people to attend anger management courses. Because this is a common requirement of the courts there are many mental health centers that offer anger management. I have worked with several mental health professionals to insure that there are specialized groups for the participants. It is important that all people with anger issues are not lumped into one group setting.

I think it is helpful for people with domestic abuse issues to be in anger management classes with other domestic abusers. So often these groups can become volatile. When an abuser sees another person get angry and out of control they can get a better feel for how their behavior affects others. Anger is sometimes used as a control mechanism by abusers. When they experience someone else trying to control a group setting or a therapist they sometimes feel the same emotions that their victims have felt.

Anger management with teenagers is another issue all together. Many times their anger comes from feelings of not being heard or being misunderstood. It is common for a teen to feel angry because they are caught between the years of childhood and adulthood. They are not old enough to do many of the things that they want to do and yet are too old to be cuddled. Most teens concentrate their anger towards their parents; there are a few that express anger towards all authority. Teenage anger management usually works on healthy ways of expressing anger. It is important that teenagers learn that everyone gets angry from time to time and that it is alright to let people know that you are angry as long as you do so in a way where the other person feels safe around you. Healthy expression of anger is the goal of all anger management courses. Teaching techniques of how to express yourself and how to diffuse anger are key elements for a health group process.

Anger management groups are formed to support person from age of 12 in learning to deal with anger in a healthy and productive manner.


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How to Know If You Need Anger Management

Every one of us gets to get angry sometimes. That is a normal instinct. Even animals show their anger in order to protect themselves and their families. So getting angry is an instinct but a normal reaction to defend oneself or other people from harm and intimidation. Nevertheless, a normal person should always have a clear mind and can be in control in situations where he is most likely to get angry. Otherwise if the anger gets out of bound, this can create a larger conflict and an infliction of harm and damages to people or properties. On the other hand, there are people who can easily see red at slight provocations. With a slight feeling of intimidation or irritation they can flare up and lose control of themselves. Sometimes their reasons for getting angry are even unjustifiable. If you are experiencing this and cannot control yourself at getting angry over small things, you may have something in your personality that must be corrected and must seek anger management counseling.

Anger management counseling can help us realize that there are some underlying problems inside our minds that need to be corrected and recovery can be hard if people who have anger issues will deny it. But then, one can recognize he has a problem. If he is always in trouble with other people, gets to get snags with the law and even dealing with their families is a problem, these are some hard evidences that uncontrollable emotions are eating up one's mind which makes him lose control of himself.

Basically, there are simple indications on how to know if you need anger management. If you don't like socializing with other people and can easily get mad and always in the arguable mood, you have a problem going on. Specifically, here are the things you can also observe in a person who have anger issues.

Indicators of Anger Issues

• You can scold or yell at your family over slight things and for married individuals they are usually at war with their partners.

• You can get easily irritated by people who don't agree with you.

• You are often disagreeable with other people even they are justifying their actions.

• You don't like socializing with other individuals even with your officemates and can see minor errors in them and tend to blow it out of proportion.

• People who know you don't like talking to you even for a minute and will try to avoid you as they can possibly can.

• You are always in trouble either with other individuals, with the law and sometimes even with yourself because you realize that you are such a 'pain' in your society.

If you see some of these events happening to you and you know you can't help yourself getting hold of your strong emotions, better see an anger management counselor so that you can be evaluated of your behavioral problem. You can also check online anger management programs and complete some anger management quiz to know quickly if you are really suffering from this kind of behavioral disorder. This behavior is treatable and can be resolved if you will be undergoing sessions from anger management programs. Under the program, you can be able to interact with other people who have the same issues and learn from them. You may do simulation test with them and with the guidance of anger management counselors, you can regain your self-control and can be on the right track again.

For more information about anger management counseling, visit my website at http://www.angermanagementcoach.com/ to read more about anger management.


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Learn About Anger Management

What is Anger?

Although anger is a natural emotional response that we can experience when trying to cope with such things as:

threatshurtviolation (of our basic rights)frustration

Understanding anger and not allowing it to develop into aggression is important.

The anger response can vary depending upon the extent of the threat, hurt, violation, or frustration, and how important it is to us at a particular time, and the setting in which the event took place. e.g.

How angry would you become if someone 'jumped the queue' at the cinema, compared with someone stealing something from you.If you were hurt accidentally, would you feel the same depth of anger to if you thought you had been hurt purposely?If someone bumps you in a stuffy, overcrowded train, would you respond more or less angrily than if someone bumped into you at a lively, noisy party.A family member teases you about your changed hairstyle, later a friend also teases you - would your level of anger be the same?

These events are called "triggers" of an anger response.

Be Aware of Rising Anger

The emotion of anger can arouse us physically as the physiology of the body changes: You might be aware of:

feeling of warmth (even when it feels cold) a feeling of increased energy level (even though you were previously feeling tired)heart palpitations (e.g heart ' thumping' or irregular heart beat)pulse racingtaking deep breathsnot feeling hungryvision becoming clearer and more focusedhearing becoming more acutea strong urge to yell outa strong urge to move your limbs quickly and forcefullyvoice becoming louderspeech becoming quickermuscles becoming tense (may clench fist, arch shoulders or allow face to become contorted i.e, twisted out of normal shape)an increase in physical strength

Sustained anger which causes physiological changes can have a negative effect on your general health.

Factors That Affect Our Response to Anger

Emotional State

If we are generally happy and have a positive outlook on life we are less likely to respond angrily to everyday events. If we are feeling down and "stressed out" we are more likely to respond angrily to everyday events. Other factors which lower our resistance to anger include:

over tirednessvery hungryevents where hormonal changes are taking place (e.g. puberty, 'PMT', birth of a baby, or menopause)

Physical Health

If we are suffering from some physical ailment e.g a cold, headache, bodily aches and pains, or physically craving an addictive substance, e.g nicotine, alcohol, caffeine, or any other drug, we are more likely to have less patience, be more irritable, and respond in an angry manner.

Individual Perception

Each person can react differently to the same "anger trigger". Some might laugh it off, others become mildly irritated, a few might stamp their feet with rage.

Individuals have learned to manage and demonstrate their feelings differently.

Become familiar with how you normally react in different situations and identify your own "triggers".


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Ever Wonder Where Your Anger Comes From?

Ever wonder where your feelings come from?

They come from your values, whether they are satisfied or not. A simple yet effective answer. So if you are agitated, upset depressed then your body or thoughts are offering you a message that your values or needs are not being satisfied. Just take a few seconds and try this simple exercise and watch how your attitude changes.

Our values are so powerful to reaching a connection with ourselves. just thinking of them will raise our energy level, such as trust, authenticity, integrity and honesty. Let's not forget to mention trust. A very powerful value that we have.

A fun exercise to do is just to imagine one of those values being satisfied. Watch how your energy level rises. Who needs coffee when you have your needs to satisfy you. People think they need to feel the feelings yet identifying needs are 90% more powerful than identifying feelings for self-connection..

Just identifying the values/needs of concern can change your attitude. Finding a way to meet that need, either by a request of your self or another can amplify the calm., yet it isn't always necessary to find a strategy to do so.

An Example:

The other day I was on my way to presenting a 3 hour workshop. I was nervous, very nervous because I was doing it in front of 25 people that I knew.

I started guessing what needs I would like satisfied to help me change my consciousness. Some of them were competence, confidence, fun and contribution. Once the values were identified I realized all those needs were really satisfied. From being nervous I changed to being calm and competent, instantly.

Try this tip during the week if your energy is becoming low. Just identify the need you would like satisfied and find a way to meet that need.

A Fun Exercise when in line:

We can also use these values to connect with other people by guessing what they might be needing. If you are in a line such as going to watch a movie or at the grocery guess what the others may be wanting in their lives. You may feel a connection with a stranger and they will not even know it. A fun way to spend your time while wait.

Our needs/values are our life energy. Without them we will fade away maybe even parish. If our physical needs are not met, such as food and water we will not survive. Same with our emotional needs. people move into anger and depression.

So take care of yourself and make sure you meet your needs everyday. One need a day can keep the grouches away.

Personal and business communication skills are never an easy subject, yet Rick Goodfriend teaches these skills in a fun and effective way. He wants communication with others to be easier, more satisfying. Additional Business and personal communication Skills are at http://walkyourtalk.org/ where you may sign up for free weekly communication tips, teleclasses and workshops.

Rick's new book, "I Hear You, But..." http://IHearYouBut.com/ is full of over 90 short and effective communication tips to help make your communications easier and more peaceful. He is also founder of World Empathy Day, celebrated every Wednesday around the world.

Rick Goodfriend is also a workshop leader and certified corporate speaker. He can provide keynotes, trainings and consultation for your business or organization. He has been on over 200 television shows speaking of communication skills training. Rick Goodfriend resides in Santa Barbara, California continuing to surf, hike and practice personal communication skills.


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Anger Management Class For Court: All You Need to Know

An anger management class for court is really no different from one that you would take voluntarily. They would teach techniques to deal with stress and how to empathize as well as to improve communication. However the practitioner does have to be licensed and there must be a structured curriculum. Someone who offers continued learning classes will not have the required qualifications.

A judge might order an anger management class simply because he feels there is the need for it or it might be agreed as part of a plea bargain on charges of assault. The minimum time period in which a course could be completed is normally around 10 to 12 hours. It is up to the discretion of the judge to determine how long someone should attend.

There would be a limit on the amount of time that the defendant would have to enroll. A hearing date will be set and a certificate of enrollment should be issued before then. This will have to be presented at the next scheduled court date. After this progress reports might also be required within 1-3 months of enrollment.

If the person has not complied by the date of the first hearing then they can be granted an extension of between 14 and 30 days. At that point if they still cannot prove that they have enrolled then they can be incarcerated. If they do not make an appearance at any of the hearings then a bench warrant will be issued.

Once the course is completed then another certificate will be issued. This must show the license number of the practitioner and his qualifications and have its own unique identifying number. It is recommended that you get two copies; one for the court and one for your own records.

Due to the nature of the class some people might be concerned about attending. There was a reported incident about a woman who was stabbed by one of her classmates but this is definitely very unusual. Attendees are just normal people who are actively looking for solutions to their problems and are generally calm and considerate.

Classes are structured as lessons and are not group therapy sessions with assignments that have to be completed in between. Poor performance that is reported will either lead to verbal admonishment or incarceration. If you find it difficult to find time or if travel is a problem then an anger management class for court can be done online.

Get more information about an anger management class for court that will help you to address challenges more effectively. When you take an anger management class, you can learn the simple steps that will help you to reduce stress and enjoy life.


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Conflict Management: Understanding Anger and the Brain

Conflict in the workplace is an ever-growing issue and more and more of my clients are requesting programs on Managing Angry People, Angry Patients, Angry Guests, etc. The one question I'm asked most often after one of these presentations is, "Is it possible that when I'm really angry, my brain just takes over? Because there are times I don't feel like I can control my own anger."

The answer is yes - the brain can be hijacked. Emotions can take over sensibility when we become really angry or someone triggers one of our "hot buttons."

The cerebral cortex is the thinking part of the brain where logic and judgment reside. The emotional center of the brain is the limbic system which is more primitive than the cerebral cortex.

So where do you think anger resides in the brain? Yes, you got it. When anger is being experienced or expressed, it's primarily coming from the limbic center of the brain.

Now let me introduce you to the amygdala, which is part of the limbic system. The amygdala is like a warehouse of emotional memories and acts like the fire alarm for our brain. The amygdala can only react based on previously stored patterns.

When information enters into our brains, the thalamus acts like a traffic cop who keeps the signals moving. In a normal situation the thalamus directs the signal to the cerebral cortex for processing in a logical manner. If the incoming info triggers a potential threat or an emotional charge, the amygdala can override the cortex and BOOM - you have an "amygdala hijacking."

During an amygdala hijack, a flood of hormones and peptides are released that cause a physical or emotional reaction. A surge of energy follows that prepares the person for the "Fight or Flight Response," also called the "Fight, Flight or Freeze Response." This hyper arousal or acute stress response was first described by Walter Bradford Cannon. The amygdala goes into action with no cognitive thought such as evaluating, judging or thinking; which means that there is no regard for consequence.

Now that you know what an amygdala hijack looks like within the brain, here's what it looks like on the outside:

The person is usually out of control and will say and do things they later regret.

This state lasts an average 20 minutes.

Although the adrenaline clears the body fairly quickly, longer lasting hormones and their impact can last several hours or even a couple of days.

How to deal with someone experiencing Amygdala Hijacking:

During the time of an amygdala hijack, avoid any attempts to resolve a situation or discuss a solution. There's little or no ability to rely on intelligence or reasoning. It is best to allow the person to vent and wait until their thoughts move from the emotional area to the thinking area of the brain.

What can I do if it I am the victim of Amygdala Hijacking?

After the hijack it is important to spend time to recognize and identify what your triggers are. I have an exercise where I have my workshop participants identify 2-3 of their responses to anger. When we go around the room and share, attendees realize just how similar or completely different people react to anger. By knowing what triggers our "hot buttons' we create an emotional awareness that allows us to consciously react differently. This may take a little time but it can be done.

Anger can escalate quickly, even when we think we are de-escalating the situation. By understanding the different responses to anger, we can prevent an emotional tug of war Self-awareness is the key to managing our own anger and is also the key to de-escalating anger in others.

How this knowledge helps keep you and others safe in the workplace

Whether it is a co-workers involved in a personality conflict, an angry boss berating an employee, co-workers who are under pressure to complete deadlines, or an angry client, customer, or patient, most of us have never been taught how to de-escalate another angry person.

By understanding how the brain sometimes acts like a bully, by being aware of what triggers our hot buttons and using de-escalation techniques most "amygdala hijackings" can be resolved without escalated violence.

Carol Fredrickson is the CEO and Founder of Violence Free. Clients rely on her skills and expertise to prevent 6 and 7 figure lawsuits and avert workplace violence. Over 100,000 people have benefited from Carol's powerful messages. Visit http://www.violence-free.com/ for Carol's most requested topics that may be a fit for your next meeting. Reach Carol at carol@violence-free.com or 623-242-8797.


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Anger Management Techniques: Where to Learn Them

There are some of us who have a hard time controlling our temper and must learn additional anger management techniques so that we will not get ourselves in trouble. Many people have heard others say to count to ten when they need to calm down. Most people can do that successfully. Men sometimes have a harder time controlling themselves, as they are naturally more aggressive than women.

Courses and classes have been developed to help people train themselves to handle their personal temper. They might be ordered by a judge or court to take these courses to stay out of jail. This happens when an aggressive crime has been committed, such as assault and battery. Anyone who is not able to control their temper could be a danger to themselves or others.

There are medications that doctors and psychiatrists have developed to help people who do not seem to be able to learn control. This could be connected to a mental disorder that causes the person to lose control and become angry too easily. It is always a good idea to consider this option if other methods are not working.

The classes that are set up for people with an uncontrollable temper will teach control and coping skills. Instructors most often work with groups. Groups sessions are set up so that people can work with others who share a similar problem. It is good to feel there are others who need help in the same area. Some people would rather have individual counseling if they do not like to open up in front of a group of people.

Counseling and courses try to help people understand why they are having trouble controlling themselves. They very often cannot see the triggers and the stressors that cause them to become angry quickly. Habits and lifestyle choices might need to be changed.

The stress that causes a lot of pressure can be harmful to the health. People will go to their doctor complaining of anxiety and heart issues that end up being caused by a bad temper. It is a difficult and personal thing to deal with.

Many daily stresses cannot be eliminated easily. A difficult job or a bad relationship can make it hard to work on an angry temper. If a course in these methods is not successful, therapy on a group or individual basis should be tried. Whether you choose individual, group therapy or courses to learn anger management techniques the most important consideration is what feels right to you.

Get more information about effective anger management techniques that will help you to address challenges more effectively. When you take an anger management class, you can learn the simple steps that will help you to reduce stress and enjoy life.


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Tips for Controlling Anger

Tips for Controlling Anger and for Forming Positive Habits

We have already learned from the past about how dangerous it is for a person to become angry and why a person should do everything in his power to distance himself from such a person. However, we need to be able to do some introspection and learn to form the positive traits and habits to counteract anger. Learning how to Control Anger is a very difficult task, but it is worth every moment of hard work and frustration that you will need to put in. We need to recognize the root cause of anger and how to manage it in order to successfully work at uprooting this disease. A person has many wants, desires, or will which are at the core of who a person is, and it is a persons greatest drive. The reason why anger is so difficult to control is because a person who is angered at a situation is because it went directly against his own will or desires. The anger is triggered because the situation went directly against "Me." We know the opposite of anger is patience, so in order to control that anger with patience we have to let our patience bear the burden of that something that went against your will.

One of the many ways to develop and train yourself to become patient is by making yourself accustomed to speak gently to all people at all times. This will undoubtedly protect you from anger; a raised voice is one of the factors which starts or causes arguments. We know that anger is an extremely negative character trait; because it is so negative it is appropriate for people to go to the opposite extreme and distance himself from anger on an extreme level, such as ignoring friends which are known to be angry. Even when anger may be justified like in a case where someone hits your brand new car, you should still try and train yourself to remain calm and refrain from anger. Furthermore, if you want to instill fear in your children in order to teach them or discipline them you should only appear to them as if you are angry but in your mind you should be completely calm. You should act like a person who is pretending to be angry but really is not.

Another very useful and helpful trick to develop the trait of patience is by fixing yourself a certain amount of time every day where you try and be patient with everything you see and hear; even for the things that may upset you. During those 15 to 30 minutes, or however long you choose you need to strive to not lose your composure. If you feel that there is a case where you simply need to react than you should do it with a measured and calm voice without becoming overly emotional. You will slowly start to notice yourself becoming a happier person when you don't get angry at certain things.

This article was written by professional speaker and motivational author Eli Attias from his website. His website provides many informational and inspiring posts and articles on what it means to be happy and touches upon many topics such as Anger, Self-Control, Patience, Relationship Advice, and much more. You can visit his website at http://www.HappinessDirect.com/


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Learn New Stress Management Skills Through Anger Management

Anger is one of the dominant emotions pervading the minds of most individuals. For many individuals, it is with the help of anger that they express their wants when they are upset. Anger is actually in response to some other reaction that we are experiencing at the moment. Doctors and psychologists say that anger is usually the secondary response on the emotional chain. There is always a preceding emotion. Learning to understand the feelings which get covered under the mask of anger is important for controlling anger. Anger management classes are therefore very helpful in dealing with anger. Anger management classes teach skills to reduce stress also to individuals.

Stress dominates the life of an individual in modern times. Work stress, examination stress or even stress from household works- stress dominates the life of individuals completely. Anger management classes also teach on how to reduce stress. When the stress levels increase, individuals feel uneasy. But when the levels decrease, they feel better than before. Clinical research shows that high levels of stress over long periods of time can harm your body and tour mind. Identifying and managing stress is a solution that is offered in these classes.

During high stress levels, often an individual says something harsh which he may not have otherwise said to his peers. These classes through discussion try to sort the problem from the roots. The individual may be a part of a group discussion or even may be in a one to one discussion with his instructor. During the course of the discussion, the instructor finds out the causes underlying stress in the individual. Individuals who are shy and do not want to share their experiences in front of everyone is given time to share their thoughts with the instructor in a one to one meeting. Other individuals who had earlier experienced stress are often brought to these classes and made to share their experiences. It has been found that people often up to these persons more than to instructors. This may be because they feel that this individual will be able to understand their problem as he also had gone through the same phase.

Poor performance by an individual leads to verbal chiding by the instructors. However, when an individual performs well, he is praised to boost his confidence level. From California to Connecticut, anger management classes are very useful.

The instructors at the anger management classes focus on the fact that what causes stress in one individual may not affect another individual. Therefore the method of dealing with stress varies from individual to individual. Relaxation techniques are taught to the individuals to get rid from stress effectively. Yoga, meditation and exercises are one of the most common stress management techniques. Yoga and meditation helps to calm the minds and the nerves of the individual, therefore reducing the stress quotient in the individual. Through meditation an individual can analyze himself and this will help in boosting self-confidence and also provide relaxation. The average length class is an 8 hour anger management class.

Therefore anger management classes teach certain skills to reduce stress effectively in an individual.

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.

He is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Click here for more information on Anger Management Classes

Dr. Ari Novick is a psychotherapist who provides world class Anger Management Classes Online.


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Anger Management Class: It Really Can Help With Your Anger Issues

Taking an anger management class can help you resolve anger issues. Courses can help people deal with rage, frustration, domestic violence and passive aggressive behaviors. Whether you are attending classes because they are court ordered or you are attending voluntarily, the courses can help you find coping strategies to address your problems with violence, verbal abuse or other inappropriate expressions of rage. The courses are most effective when the individual desires a change in behavior.

There are many constructive ways to deal with being upset including relaxation techniques, cognitive therapy and other methods of rage reduction. Individuals undergoing these management courses can often benefit from group therapy as well as individualized attention that helps them improve their capacity for demonstrating empathy. They can work on a number of techniques to gain more control and express themselves more constructively.

Management is especially important for people who are easily triggered into expressing their emotions violently. Domestic abusers and assault perpetrators are frequently mandated by court order to attend these courses to improve their coping skills and reduce the rate of recidivism. The classes have demonstrated mixed results, but many abusers have found them helpful in modifying their behavior towards more constructive means of expression.

Cognitive restructuring methods like cognitive behavior therapy and rational emotive therapy are often used to address cognitive distortions and to change the person's automatic thoughts. This can help the patient more accurately deal with his emotions and to replace his thoughts with more beneficial patterns of thought and behavior.

Not all angry expressions are pathological, but those that involve significant verbal abuse towards others, or those that involve inflicting physical harm upon others are forms of rage that need to be controlled, modified or redirected. These courses are helpful for individuals who want to challenge themselves to change their behavior when they become upset.

Getting a handle on one's emotions is a crucial step in establishing dialogue between people and in dealing with issues of dissatisfaction that can induce feelings of violence, hatred or revenge. Having a healthy outlook that works to prevent these sorts of dangerous outbursts can be very important towards maintaining physical and emotional well-being.

Courses can help individuals deal with emotional issues in a more positive and constructive manner that does not encourage harming oneself or others. An anger management class can be a useful tool towards restraining one's anger and getting more control of their relationships with others.

Go here to watch a free introductory anger management class.

Dr. Joe James is a psychologist who is the developer of an online court ordered anger management class.


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How to Control Your Anger and Practice Patience

Today the most common problem with every second person is to manage his anger and remain cool and contented. In your daily life you usually come across people who are the victims of short temper and anxiety. People avoid their company and try to keep them at arms length so as to avoid their fury and anger. I sometimes really pity these people as they are the slaves of their unwanted and undesirable habit and need help to overcome this malicious habit. So here I am with a few tips that can really work magic in solving their problem.

Anger is a state of trauma and turmoil. A person loses his senses in this state and it blocks his mind to think straight and positive. What you need to do is to remain cool in adverse circumstances. Always give space to others. Be prepared to face any sort of situation while dealing with others. It's not necessary that people will agree to all your proposals. Usually you come up with an idea and without doubting its validity expects others to accept it and when they don't, you get furious and start hot arguments that usually result in untold anger and quarrel. This is absolutely ridiculous attitude on your part. you need to be patient in listening to others and honouring their opinion.

You should always be ready to tolerate others. Tolerance is a good personality trait and those who inhibit it are lucky. At times you are stuck up in such nasty situations that even if you are cool headed, you feel like bursting up in rage any second. This is the juncture where you need to use your weapons of tolerance and endurance. Be brave and remain in control of your emotions. Getting unduly emotional will take you nowhere. Neither it will resolve the issue nor will it relieve the tension. Rather it will exaggerate the problem.

Most of you think that if you are a strict and quarrelsome person people will be apprehensive of you and you' ll have an upper hand on them. In other words a fierce person can dominate others easily. So fake and unrealistic this belief is. Mostly teachers think the same. They get mad at their students on petty things thinking that it will keep them timid, but they are totally wrong as this attitude leads to frustration in students and develops obnoxious feelings in them. You need to be soft and firm in your dealings with your students and others as well. Love and politeness can change hearts and minds like a magic wand. Anger and fury can demolish them like an angry storm.

Another way of managing your anger is to avoid communication with others when you are angry or in a bad mood. If you feel tension mounting up, leave that place for the time being to prevent any unfavourable situation. Later on when the heat has receded, try to sort out things sensibly. This shows your strength and control of mind. What you need to do is to remain composed in times of crises. Instead of bursting out your anger on others just take a deep breath, drink a glass of water and be relaxed. Don't ever forget that words spoken and things done in anger may have disastrous consequences. And no matter how much you repent, it will be in vain. This is absolutely true about situations that provoke people to commit abhorrent crimes like murders.

You are the best manager of your personality and habits. Mould yourself into a commendable human being, who is in complete control of his mind and remains cool, contented and composed at times of chaos and crises. Make patience your first and foremost priority.

Hi! This Naheed Haq from Pakistan. Here I am with a new article for my readers which I hope will entertain them.


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Tips To Control Your Anger

A person's age does show the behavioral reaction that he will be getting from any provoking event. It is normal for the young and the old to show feelings of disapproval. In any perceived provocation which cannot be tolerated, our mind will interpret it as contrary to our doctrine. Children are having anger as temporary emotional state, and this prompted as soon as they feel suspicious of being displaced by a rival or more likely reaction to frustrations. In the older age group, anger is a manifestation of great emotion and a deep understanding of this feeling instinctively. Here are some helpful tips and suggestions on how to control your anger:

In any case, you will be caught in abrupt anger, and a sudden heap of emotions will try to convince you to retaliate. Sometimes, your reaction will rely on the time and environment, and very slim your chance of handling provocation in a peaceful manner because of failure to justify your anger. Alertness of mind to verify situation is a straightforward solution to get out from your anger.

Do some deep breathing in the unusual manner, like doing it the other way around. While inhaling, have your stomach inflated, and deflated while exhaling. This will focus your mind in the breathing exercises and that will eventually forget your anger.
Performing some mental images of things or events, like imagining yourself in places you have never visited or thinking all the negative scenarios and outcomes of getting into trouble because of your bigotry. This imagery-based will relieve your pressure and stress.
Do some soul activities that give a soothing effect like reviving old belongings and photos in your disarray attic, rewarding yourself relaxing in the calmness of the sea, or feel the strong wind at the top of the mountain. All of these will help to cool your temper and to remain on slow-burn mode.
Stonewalling your anger. This is an attempt to delay your bursting feeling by refusing to accept your anger's challenge, for a moment take a pause, and counting to ten may give you time to think on how to react in a diplomatic way without freaking out.
Walking away from the scene and going inside your room to release the anger by shouting out loud, or by having a qualitative change of interest in doing something for relaxing will overcome emotional tension.
Be observant of your anger pattern. If it is recurring even in a simple misunderstanding, better if you make an appointment with your doctor, just to be sure if such behavior is still normal or needs medical treatment.
Change your core beliefs that in rude retaliation will always release the stress, and will satisfy your revenge. Try considering also the enduring effect of the hurting words that may cause an irreparable harm, and that only time can heal the scarce it has made.
Voicing your anger in a calm and constructive way will put you in a good position to control your anger without creating a feeling of guilt and shame.
If you are not comfortable in voicing your anger, try writing it all down on a piece of paper or electronic mail can be emotionally purging.
Don't be afraid to ask for advice from your parents and closest friends if the problem gets complicated. It is still mitigating if you feel someone's commiseration.

Noel Nicolas Villarosa is a poet, and writes at his most inspired moments. You can read his poems and articles at http://pinoylifefacts.blogspot.com/.

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Top 10 Tips on How to Help You Deal With Anger

There is no doubt about it 'anger' is a very strong emotion, unfortunately it can be a very destructive one as well. We can choose to suppress it or act it out, however when we suppress it and bottle it up inside, we can sometimes experience a range of physical symptoms, common ones are headaches, nausea and palpitations. If we cannot control our anger the chances are that someone will get hurt. The following are tips on. how to deal with anger in a healthier mode. By adapting these new techniques and behaviours a better quality of life will be gradually be found not just for you but for everyone else who is involved in your life. The success of these techniques do not happen overnight, but with practice and perseverance, will give a great head start to a more fulfilled and purposeful.

Ask Why You Are Angry Acknowledge and know why you are angry. Beware of what types of situations that trigger the anger.Healthy Communication Instead of communicating aggressively, start learning how to communicate in a more constructive manner. Be more aware of the non verbal types of communication i.e. tone of voice, eyes rolling and shrugging of shoulders.Brainstorming If a situation is continuing to make you angry and upset, start to brainstorm what other solutions there is until one comes up that is acceptable.Empathy Empathise with the other person and try to understand where he/she is coming from.Do Things You Like Go for a walk, run or swim until you calm down. Get some fresh air, it will surprise you how nature can have a calming effect on your mood.Calm Down Before Confronting Try your best to relax. If it is necessary to confront the other person make sure to use the skills of healthy communication to get your point over.Stay Focused Remember you may have a very valid point but when your delivery stinks you have lost the battle!Breathing Exercises Get into the habit of practicing deep breathing exercises on a regular basisUnwind Chill out, listen to some calming music. Take a long hot bath and give yourself a self pampering evening.Talk it over with a trusted friend, someone who is unbiased and who you can trust. This will help you to unwind and hopefully allow you to look at things in a more rational manner.

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